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If the rumors are true and it's another woman, then it seems the boss is right, "cheating is a character flaw". And character is HARD to change.
But NOT impossible. We women can still train our men, from our children to our partners, not to cheat. To treat us with love and respect. But it will take a lot of courage and strength and faith. It will require first OUR transformation. And transformation, from what I heard, requires FOCUS on ourselves. To put ourselves under a microscope. To identify and correct our own character flaws. Especially the ones that inspire and encourage men's bad behavior. We must believe in their capacity to be the PRINCES that God made them. But they need our help.
But to help another we must first help ourselves. Or we'll end up with the blind leading the blind.
Tuesday, September 20, 2016
Monday, September 19, 2016
From One Woman To Another
Hi Princess.
Yes you. You're a princess. Not because you have a prince. But because your Father is THE KING.
I feel the need to write to you because as women I believe we should watch each other's back.
Naloko ka na ba? Napagpalit? Na two-time? I have. TWICE.
It was so painful that at one point I told our Father THE KING that I don't want to be someone's girlfriend anymore. I want to be the girl he chooses over his girlfriend na lang. The one he "chooses". The one he cheats with. Ganun.
But God has been generous with me. He showed me the real big picture.
I was once "that" girl. Actually, to be accurate, I was "twice" that girl. Two times I was chosen over the girlfriend. Two times I broke up a supposedly committed relationship. In my sort of defense, they both told me that they were single na. But I know I came in the picture before they were single. While I did not actively pursue them, I encouraged their cheating by playing along. I played along, without thinking. Without any thought for that other woman whom I've never met and who has done me no wrong, na masasaktan ko.
It felt good. Kilig.
At first. And then the insecurities came flooding in. Because now you're the girlfriend. Ikaw na yung pwedeng iwan at ipagpalit. Because deep inside you know, you were not chosen over the many other women he could have met and would DEFINITELY meet. You were chosen over this one woman. You weren't chosen because you're better than her. Disabuse yourself from that absurd reasoning. You were chosen for the simple and obvious reason that you're different. You're different from the girlfriend. You're unknown territory, so to speak. And that is exciting. I'm sorry to burst your bubble but that's not love. Not even close.
And what happens when the new becomes old?
So, princess, please, please DISCOVER TRUE LOVE. Be so deeply and fully in love with you. Be so deeply immersed in God's love and the true love that He has surrounded you with through your family and friends. Be so deeply immersed in true love that no counterfeit love will ever be enough for you. Get to know true love in your relationship with our Father THE KING. Know true love in the comforting words and hugs of the people who have been with you equally through your ups and downs.
And date. Wholesome dating ha. Date to know thyself. To know what your likes and dislikes are. To know your non-negotiables and to know what you're willing to compromise on. Date so you can choose. Don't get into a relationship with the first guy na you are attracted to that tells you you're pretty then bobolahin ka sa txt tapos dadalhan ka ng isang box ng pasalubong from Nueva Ecija. Okay?
If you just use your logic a little bit you'll see the absurdity of it all. To base your entire future and your happiness on a few kilig moments.
Date so you can, by God's grace and guidance, choose His best. Date with eyes wide open. And ask him to date too. To date with his eyes wide open. That is the only way he can really choose you too. Tell him you'd rather have him date around now than when you are already committed to each other or when you have children to consider.
Use your intellect to make the right decisions and choices, rather than to rationalize and excuse your wrong decisions.
A couple of other things you must remember. First, believe me when I say na mas masarap marining ang "ang sarap mo kausap at kasama", "I love our conversations", "I learn so much from you", "I feel like I'm growing and becoming a better person because of you", "You're genuinely kind", "You're so wise and smart", "You make me laugh", "You are authentic and honest", mga ganun. Kesa "ang ganda-ganda mo" and its derivatives.
I've been there. Iba pala to be appreciated for your mind and your heart, your faith and your soul. Rather than be appreciated for something as shallow and fleeting as looks.
And second, maganda ka naman talaga and you SHOULD be treated special kasi prinsesa ka. So why act like that's such a big deal? So much so na dahil tine-txt ka lang ng good morning, kamusta, and good night eh dapat ka na mag-commit sa kanya? You know yourself and what you're capable of bringing into the relationship. And that is not cheap. Your love, loyalty, and support are worth so much more than a few kilig moments.
The reason it's so hard to find the right man is because we've made them so rare. We women must train our men to become the right men. Let's not baby them. Let's stop making excuses for them. Call a cheat a cheat. Call them on their bad behavior. Don't accept anything less than what you deserve as a daughter of Christ. Don't be scared of losing them. Because you are more than enough on your own. And often being alone is exactly what you need to move to the next level. To complete your mission.
Believe me. I am the quintessential Libra who "seems" unable to function well outside of a relationship. And I am telling you this from my heart. I found my smile again, yung ngiting hanggang mata, after my second relationship ended.
I thought time and my numerous rationalizations can make right what was wrong from the start. Pero salamat sa wisdom, generosity, and love of our Father THE KING, sa wakas tinama na Niya ang mali.
And I pray we all learn from it.
Love,
Princess Di :)
Yes you. You're a princess. Not because you have a prince. But because your Father is THE KING.
I feel the need to write to you because as women I believe we should watch each other's back.
Naloko ka na ba? Napagpalit? Na two-time? I have. TWICE.
It was so painful that at one point I told our Father THE KING that I don't want to be someone's girlfriend anymore. I want to be the girl he chooses over his girlfriend na lang. The one he "chooses". The one he cheats with. Ganun.
But God has been generous with me. He showed me the real big picture.
I was once "that" girl. Actually, to be accurate, I was "twice" that girl. Two times I was chosen over the girlfriend. Two times I broke up a supposedly committed relationship. In my sort of defense, they both told me that they were single na. But I know I came in the picture before they were single. While I did not actively pursue them, I encouraged their cheating by playing along. I played along, without thinking. Without any thought for that other woman whom I've never met and who has done me no wrong, na masasaktan ko.
It felt good. Kilig.
At first. And then the insecurities came flooding in. Because now you're the girlfriend. Ikaw na yung pwedeng iwan at ipagpalit. Because deep inside you know, you were not chosen over the many other women he could have met and would DEFINITELY meet. You were chosen over this one woman. You weren't chosen because you're better than her. Disabuse yourself from that absurd reasoning. You were chosen for the simple and obvious reason that you're different. You're different from the girlfriend. You're unknown territory, so to speak. And that is exciting. I'm sorry to burst your bubble but that's not love. Not even close.
And what happens when the new becomes old?
So, princess, please, please DISCOVER TRUE LOVE. Be so deeply and fully in love with you. Be so deeply immersed in God's love and the true love that He has surrounded you with through your family and friends. Be so deeply immersed in true love that no counterfeit love will ever be enough for you. Get to know true love in your relationship with our Father THE KING. Know true love in the comforting words and hugs of the people who have been with you equally through your ups and downs.
And date. Wholesome dating ha. Date to know thyself. To know what your likes and dislikes are. To know your non-negotiables and to know what you're willing to compromise on. Date so you can choose. Don't get into a relationship with the first guy na you are attracted to that tells you you're pretty then bobolahin ka sa txt tapos dadalhan ka ng isang box ng pasalubong from Nueva Ecija. Okay?
If you just use your logic a little bit you'll see the absurdity of it all. To base your entire future and your happiness on a few kilig moments.
Date so you can, by God's grace and guidance, choose His best. Date with eyes wide open. And ask him to date too. To date with his eyes wide open. That is the only way he can really choose you too. Tell him you'd rather have him date around now than when you are already committed to each other or when you have children to consider.
Use your intellect to make the right decisions and choices, rather than to rationalize and excuse your wrong decisions.
A couple of other things you must remember. First, believe me when I say na mas masarap marining ang "ang sarap mo kausap at kasama", "I love our conversations", "I learn so much from you", "I feel like I'm growing and becoming a better person because of you", "You're genuinely kind", "You're so wise and smart", "You make me laugh", "You are authentic and honest", mga ganun. Kesa "ang ganda-ganda mo" and its derivatives.
I've been there. Iba pala to be appreciated for your mind and your heart, your faith and your soul. Rather than be appreciated for something as shallow and fleeting as looks.
And second, maganda ka naman talaga and you SHOULD be treated special kasi prinsesa ka. So why act like that's such a big deal? So much so na dahil tine-txt ka lang ng good morning, kamusta, and good night eh dapat ka na mag-commit sa kanya? You know yourself and what you're capable of bringing into the relationship. And that is not cheap. Your love, loyalty, and support are worth so much more than a few kilig moments.
The reason it's so hard to find the right man is because we've made them so rare. We women must train our men to become the right men. Let's not baby them. Let's stop making excuses for them. Call a cheat a cheat. Call them on their bad behavior. Don't accept anything less than what you deserve as a daughter of Christ. Don't be scared of losing them. Because you are more than enough on your own. And often being alone is exactly what you need to move to the next level. To complete your mission.
Believe me. I am the quintessential Libra who "seems" unable to function well outside of a relationship. And I am telling you this from my heart. I found my smile again, yung ngiting hanggang mata, after my second relationship ended.
I thought time and my numerous rationalizations can make right what was wrong from the start. Pero salamat sa wisdom, generosity, and love of our Father THE KING, sa wakas tinama na Niya ang mali.
And I pray we all learn from it.
Love,
Princess Di :)
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